The prospect of hiring a nanny for the first time can be intimidating for any parent, especially with concerns about how well your child will adjust to the new caregiver. Separation anxiety is a natural part of child development, but if it persists or becomes disruptive, you and your nanny may need to take steps to help ease the situation.
Child separation anxiety typically occurs from as early as 8 months and should fade away as the child grows older. However, if anxieties interfere with school or other activities, it may be a sign of separation anxiety disorder, which may require professional help.
Common symptoms of separation anxiety disorder include physical complaints like stomach aches, fear of something terrible happening to loved ones, nightmares about separation, school refusal, and fear of sleeping alone.
Possible reasons for your child’s separation anxiety disorder include your own anxieties, changes in routine, or recent stressful situations.
Tips for parents and nannies to deal with separation anxiety disorder:
- Allow the child to get to know the nanny while you’re still around.
- Focus on positive aspects of the situation.
- Talk through the child’s feelings and concerns.
- Leave without fuss.
- Set boundaries and maintain routines.
- Give praise for accomplishments, no matter how small.
- Stay calm, firm, and in control.
If your child’s separation anxiety persists despite these tips, consult a GP for further advice.