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Navigating Birthday Etiquette as a Nanny

Working as a nanny often blurs the lines between professional relationships and family bonds. Birthdays can particularly highlight this unique dynamic. Whether it’s for your current charges, their parents, or even past families you’ve worked for, deciding on the appropriate way to celebrate can sometimes feel like a minefield. Here are some thoughtful guidelines to help you navigate these decisions with grace.

Working as a nanny often blurs the lines between professional relationships and family bonds. Birthdays can particularly highlight this unique dynamic. Whether it’s for your current charges, their parents, or even past families you’ve worked for, deciding on the appropriate way to celebrate can sometimes feel like a minefield. Here are some thoughtful guidelines to help you navigate these decisions with grace.

Birthday Etiquette for Nannies: Who Gets What?

1. Your Current Charges

Celebrating your charges’ birthdays shows you care and helps strengthen your bond. A gift need not be extravagant; the gesture is what counts. Experiences like a trip to the cinema, ideally giving them some one-on-one time without siblings, can be incredibly meaningful. Alternatively, consider gifts that offer continued value such as books (with a personal message inscribed) or board games.

2. Your Ex-Charges

Maintaining a connection with children you once cared for is a beautiful gesture. A birthday card is always a lovely way to mark their special day from afar. If you happen to see them around their birthday, a small gift or outing might be appropriate, depending on your ongoing relationship.

3. Your Current Bosses

Navigating your current employer’s birthday can be tricky but doesn’t have to be stressful. Often, you might already be involved in preparing something with the children, like making a card or baking a cake. If you have a good rapport and know their tastes, a small, thoughtful gift could be appropriate. Otherwise, a heartfelt card or offering to babysit for free on a night out can be more than sufficient.

4. Your Ex-Bosses

If you remember your former employer’s birthday and you’re still in touch, it’s nice to acknowledge it, especially if you had a close relationship. A simple card can show you value the time you spent with their family. However, if you’re not in close contact, it’s perfectly acceptable to let the day pass unmarked.

Conclusion

Ultimately, the best approach to birthday etiquette in your role as a nanny is to do what feels right for you and the relationships you have with those involved. It’s about balancing professionalism with personal touch, showing appreciation and respect without overstepping boundaries.

Christmas gifts for ex-charges and families

It’s that time of year when we’re making lists, just like Santa. Family, friends, employers, current charges…. The list for a nanny is long! We’re not going to come down one way or the other but here are some tips so you don’t get sucked into spending hundreds for all your ex-charges.

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Spotlight on Christmas – gift or bonus?

Most people like to give their nanny a token of appreciation over the festive season. This can range from a bottle of wine or basket of toiletries to a week’s wage as a bonus. When deciding what to give your nanny there are two important things to consider –the budget for this gift and future gifts, and tax.

Any kind of cash bonus is taxable. It needs to be declared to HMRC and appear on the payslip, along with the tax and NI deductions. This is worth bearing in mind if the intention is to give a nanny an amount other than their weekly wage, as adding £100 will not translate to giving them an extra £100 spending money. Even if the bonus is in the form of cash or a cheque inside their Christmas card tax and NI still need to be paid on the value of it. Vouchers are also treated as cash.

Some employers find cash impersonal, although it is a safe option, and prefer to give a gift. Some gifts are taxable, particularly if they can be resold, but others are exempt as they are considered a trivial benefit. Seek advice from a payroll agency or by calling the HMRC employer helpline, then request confirmation in writing from your local employment office.

Above all remember that gift-giving should be a pleasure, not a chore (remember this when buying for Aunt Mabel too), and it is far worse to not give anything than get it wrong, particularly if you keep the receipt!

Christmas presents for childcarers

Want to show your childcarer(s) how much you appreciate them but stuck for ideas? About to nip to Tesco to stock up on tins of Roses or bottles of vino? Hold on just a second and read our handy guide to buying something special for those other special people in your child’s life.

The task of buying for nursery staff can be daunting. Most parents opt for a a special something for their child’s keyworker and a joint gift for the staff in the room – a hamper with teas, herbal teas and coffees or some nice handwash and hand cream. They’re probably overflowing with chocolates and wine so think outside the box a little. Individual pamper hampers are a nice personal gift if you don’t have too many people to buy for or  individual cards with a voucher or gift card for an appropriate store will be appreciated too.

‘I didn’t know what to get the staff at nursery so I bought a plant for the staffroom and decorated it with cards and an ornament for each of them to take home’.

 

You’ll probably know a childminder or nanny better and be able to find something to their taste – a good book, tickets to a show or a gadget you know they’ll love. Unless you know that they love a particular type of chocolate or are partial to a nice G&T of an evening, try to avoid chocolate or alcohol based gifts. Equally a photo of your children, while very sweet, is unlikely to make them light up. They love them very much but chances are they have plenty of photos already. Cash always goes down well but it can feel awkward trying to decide an amount if it’s their only present- 1 week’s salary is a good guide for a nanny.

‘I gave my nanny a KitchenAid , which was less than a week’s salary but far more appreciated, and  a lift home so she didn’t need to take it on the tube!’

 

It can be more difficult giving cash to childminders, and if you’re strapped for cash a week is a lot of money, but if you do then make it clear it’s for them to spend on themselves. Sometimes the best gifts combine the practical with the personal – a case for an iPad or a smart hat and gloves set if you notice theirs are looking a big tatty. A token gift that you’ve put a lot of thought into is worth far more than an envelope stuffed with banknotes.

‘Our childminder is a big tea drinker but I know she restricts her cuppas to when my active 2 year old can’t charge into her and knock them over. I got her a spill proof insulated mug which came in handy when he dropped his nap.’

 

For a casual babysitter an extra bit of cash is probably most appreciated, tucked inside a nice card. If you prefer to give a present rather than slip an extra tenner their way then think about their interests or what they’ll find useful- if they’re a student then funky notebooks or pens for use in lectures may brighten up their day.

‘My babysitter is a retired lady who lives a few doors down and has a beautiful garden. We got her a new pair of gardening gloves and some handcream so she can keep up the good work.’

 

If a carer has their own children with them at work you might want to buy a token gift for them as well. This doesn’t need to be expensive but will be very well received by the children and the thought and effort will be appreciated by your carer too.

Whether you give a significant gift or not,  put the effort into making a card with your children – the glitterier and messier the better – and send a card from yourself as well with a note saying how much you appreciate them! That’s a gift that keeps on giving.